Man this is my first post this entire YEAR o_O My bad! Life got crazy and I forgot about my LJ xD But now I'm back! Yay!
Work is manic as usual - I picked up an extra day due to the fact Shawn is in daycare permanently now, I work Monday to Friday now, before I only worked Monday - Wednesday and Friday.
Shawn turned 2 just over a month ago! YAY! Vegas turns 4 in 9 days, he's having a big party with all his friends from kindy cos his b'day is on a Sunday.
My birthday is less than 3 weeks away, god I'm so old, I'm turning 26! David keeps teasing me about it, but I just remind him that this year he's turning 33 and I call him an old fart (jokingly of course xD) hehehehe!!
Rahel is turning 8 in August and already she's wanting to organise her party, despite her brother and Mum's birthdays are before hers LOL.
Remember my last post when I talked about Bree's wedding? Well it happened the weekend just past (the 19th) and Jo and I went. Now I know why we basically cut contact with her, she's a cow. She turned into a complete bridezilla and it started pretty much RIGHT after I posted last, back in December last year. Let me tell you the story...
After we were invited to be bridesmaids, Jo and I talked it over and decided we'd do it, as Bree seemed desperate and it turned out that she didn't have many friends cos she and her fiance Rob had just moved to Sydney from Melbourne. We felt kinda sorry for her, so we agreed to do it.
In January, she told us we'd be paying for our own dresses, our own flights, our own accomodation and "of course" presents for her bridal shower AND wedding. Neither Jo and I or were very pleased about this. Jo went back to university at the beginning of 2010 (she's studying law and I'm so proud of her for going back! <3) and is strapped for cash. And I have 3 kids - yeah both David and I have good jobs but we don't make enough for all that PLUS our own normal living.
Then I got an email from Bree's sister (who was very nice), who is the Maid Of Honour, asking us why we were getting a hotel room and not staying at Bree's place. I told her that we hadn't been asked and had been told we'd need to pay for our own accomodation. Bree's sister got mad and said she'd talk to Bree about it, saying it wasn't fair we would have to shell out for an expensive room when we could stay at Bree's for free.
The official invitations arrived in March, and I noticed something funny about it. The invitation was only addressed to me, and didn't mention that I could bring David. Jo had a similar situation, her invitation was only to her and didn't say she could bring her boyfriend Steve. So I emailed Bree's sister and asked if people could bring guests. She was surprised and said absolutely and that everybody was bringing their SO's. I told her that my and Jo's invitations were only addressed to us, and didn't even mention we could bring somebody! After that, Bree called me and said she figured we didn't want to bring somebody as we were the only ones coming from New Zealand. Then she said I could bring David "if I wanted to." I told David this, and David said he'd go if I wanted him to, otherwise he'd stay home with the kids. I was determined David was coming and told him we'd get my parents to babysit for a couple of days.
We (David, Jo, Steve and I) managed to score some VERY cheap tickets to Sydney with a budget airline for less then $50 each - the plane tickets ended up being the cheapest bit of this whole debacle, amazingly.
Bree told me and Jo we'd still have to stay in a hotel, as now we were bringing David & Steve there wouldn't be enough room in her house for us. Then she suggested that we ditch the boys and stay at her house anyway. I couldn't believe she was suggesting we ditch our husband/boyfriend for her. I declined and said I'd stay at the hotel but come over to her place when needed.
Then it came to the bridesmaid's dresses. Bree told us she'd picked out the dresses but they were only available in Sydney. She wanted us to send CASH to her to Sydney to pay for them. I'm sorry, but there was no way I was doing that - there was NO way we'd be able to be sure she'd spent the money on the dresses. We came to a agreement, Bree sent us pictures of the dresses and we'd try to find a similar version in NZ. I almost fell over when I saw them, they were HIDEOUS. They had LOADS of fabric but still managed to be mini skirt length, and they were BARBIE PINK. I knew Jo and I both would look terrible in them so I'm SUPER glad we got to find our own versions - I'm short and petite and Jo is tall and not girly. We managed to find similar dresses here that actually flattered us, but when we emailed pics of them to Bree she threw a fit and said they looked nothing like what she wanted. Jo and I put our foot down, either this or nothing. Bree finally agreed (with a little nudging from her sister and mother) and we bought the dresses, they weren't cheap but at least we looked good in them.
I thought everything had settled down by about April, but then Bree emailed me asking what Jo and I were planning for her bridal shower. HUH? The MOH is supposed to organise that, and we're in NZ, what did she want us to do? We can't plan a shower when we're in another country! Two days after that, Bree's sister emailed and apologised for Bree's rudeness saying she was organising the shower and to ignore what Bree had said. Bree had apparently tried to wangle two showers, she knew her sister was planning one but she tried to get us to do one. Thankfully we're not dumb and her sister was onto her. We were invited to the shower but of course couldn't make it due to the fact we were in NZ, and anyway, neither of us could get off work.
In early June, Bree emailed to say she was having a bachelorette party and wanted us to come. I was ready to say that the four of us would be coming over on the Friday before the wedding, but Bree said the party was the day before the wedding on the Friday. She wouldn't take no for an answer and said we were coming whether we liked it or not. Unfortunately, our flight was scheduled for the early evening (after a day of work) and we would get into Sydney around 8pm. When I told Bree this she freaked out and said we were trying to ruin her party. How could we ruin something we knew nothing about until right that second? She begged us to come over earlier this day to make it, but neither Jo or I could get out of work and our plane tickets were unrefundable. In the end I told Bree we'd TRY to get to the party when we flew in.
Then Bree said both of us would have to bring her a present cos we missed her bridal shower. Uh, excuse me? We didn't attend the shower! Why would we give a present for a shower we didn't even go to? I told her I'd see what I could do. Jo and I ended up buying her a cheap present from both of us.
The weekend of the wedding FINALLY arrived (lol long so far and the wedding hasn't even happened yet! xD). David and I left our kids with my parents for the weekend (we'd be home on Sunday afternoon), and flew over to Sydney with Jo and Steve. We arrived at close to 9pm instead of 8 cos our plane was delayed. We checked into the hotel (which we'd chosen ourselves, the ones Bree had suggested had been overly expensive), it was lovely and not too over the top. Jo and I debated over trying to make the bachelorette party. I called Bree and when she answered the phone and heard my voice, she started yelling at me! She asked why we hadn't turned up to her party considering our plane came in "over an hour ago!!!". I told her we'd been delayed but would like to still come. Bree snottily told us where it was. Jo and I left David and Steve in the hotel (they probably had more fun then we did xD) and headed off to the party.
Bree had bragged to us that the party would be wild with loads of people there (I doubted it considering she'd asked us to be bridesmaids cos she knew hardly anyone in Sydney). But when we arrived, there was about 6 people there including Bree. They were all just sitting around talking, nothing was even happening. At the party was me, Jo, Bree, Bree's sister, Bree's mother, one of Bree's cousins and 3 of Bree's new coworkers. An hour after we'd arrived, the party ended and we headed back to the hotel.
Fastforward to the next day, the wedding day! Bree called us at 6am saying we needed to come with her to get ready. I was ready for this, so this wasn't unexpected. We told David and Steve to be at the venue at 1pm and headed out.
Bree, Bree's sister, Bree's mother, Jo and I got ready. That went by pretty uneventful, except when Bree freaked out about my long hair. She wanted us to leave our hair out, but when she saw how long my hair really was (I had it back in a ponytail at her party) she almost cried and said she didn't want my hair to look prettier then hers. She freaked out even more when her sister and Mum said how great my hair was. In the end, we all got up-do's, but Bree STILL thought my hair looked better then hers. Her Mum told her to shut up finally (go Bree's Mum!) and Bree got over herself. We got the dresses on, but Bree was still complaining that they looked nothing like what she wanted. Offside, both her sister and Mum said they were glad these dresses were picked as Bree's choices were hideous.
The wedding itself was beautiful. There was about 20 people there, as a lot of her family couldn't make it. But it was a lovely ceremony and Bree looked very happy. I said to David later that I was glad I came after all this, and David agreed and said he was happy he came as well.
But then reception came along, it was held in a hall that was way too big for only 20 people. Bree had told us that there would be lots of food and a DJ, but in reality there was only nibbles and a stereo. Sometime between the actual ceremony and the reception, Bree had got into a funk and refused to talk to anybody. Jo, David, Steve and I ended up sitting together and chatting, because Bree was acting like a brat. The reception was actually very boring and Bree almost refused to dance with Rob, but her mother told her to stop being bratty and get up there (I seriously love her mum xD) Then Bree had the audacity to get mad when David and I got up to dance together, because the song we had our first dance to at our wedding (Savage Garden's "Truly Madly Deeply") came on and we JUST had to dance to it.
Bree then told us that she was going to have a lunch the next day where she'd open her wedding gifts (David and I had bought her a china set from her registry, verrrry pricy). But we had plane tickets back to NZ for 2pm the next day. We told her we couldn't come, and she got angry at us and said we were ruining her day. There was nothing we could do about it, as David and I had to get back to our kids. We told her this, and she practically screamed "I'M SICK OF HEARING ABOUT YOUR KIDS! THE WORLD DOESN'T REVOLVE AROUND THEM!". By then, I'd had enough of her, and replied "This may be your wedding, but the world doesn't revolve around you either. Our kids are more important to us then seeing you open your wedding gifts" and I walked out. David, Jo and Steve followed us. Back at the hotel, I felt terrible for causing a scene in front of Bree's family (not Bree), and I called Bree's sister to apologise. To my surprise, she said it was fine and it was about time somebody told Bree what they thought. After we'd left, she'd expected her family to back her up and say how horrible I was, but they told her they pretty much agreed with me!
The rest of the trip went pretty good though, we enjoyed a nice breakfast in Sydney before getting our flight back to NZ. Bree's mother called me and told me in no uncertain terms not to feel bad about what I'd said to Bree, as she deserved it. She said Jo and I were lucky to have been in another country during the planning of the wedding and that Bree had been acting like a brat and a witch for over six months!
And the most hilarious thing? This morning, the copies of the photos we'd ordered of the wedding arrived along with a nasty note from Bree that said "I knew your dresses would look horrible on you". The kicker? I checked my email and had an email from Bree's sister which said "Ignore Bree's note in your photos, she's just bitter that all our family think you and Jo's dresses looked beautiful and MUCH better then the ones she picked out!". The photos from the wedding are gorgeous, Jo looks gorgeous and Jo told me I look gorgeous too. We're only keeping the photos without Bree in them, and we're getting a couple of the photos framed - my favourites are the one of me and Jo in our dresses, one of me, Jo, David and Steve, one of me and Jo with Bree's sister and Mum and a gorgeous one of me and David, which we're making copies of to send to our family.
I feel sorry for Rob, he's a truly nice guy that just happens to have terrible taste in women. Jo and I have agreed we'll keep in touch with Bree's sister and Mum, and we'll talk to Rob when we can, but we're not talking to Bree again. She was horrible to us most of the wedding and doesn't deserve our friendship. However, we did make some friends, got two gorgeous dresses out of it (which aren't too over the top and will definitely be worn again) and some fantastic photos.
There's the long story of the craziest wedding I've ever been to. Outside of Bree, the whole weekend was actually pretty fun xD